It seems to be one extreme to another – either too little or too much.Having standards is not about having a criteria list for you to mark potential mates against and it’s not about the superficial.The episode made me think: what is the difference between being way too picky and simply having high standards?
But I have a few standards and, once, when I rejected a guy for not meeting them, a friend rolled her eyes and said I had to stop being so picky. Sometimes, people just aren’t attracted to someone or they don’t like something about someone – that’s not a bad thing!Trust is something that is earned, not doled out to every guy that makes an effort to go out on a date or sleep between the sheets.This means that if he can’t behave in the basic ways that enable him to earn your trust, such as calling when he says he will, being emotionally available, being faithful, being unattached to someone else, treating you with respect and behaving with integrity, then he shouldn’t be trusted and he is below standard.In the world of dating, everybody has standards even if they won’t admit it.
The only thing is that there is a major disparity between the type of standards that you should have and how much.
They were too emotionally entrenched in the experience and could not see how they were creating some of the dynamics. You will probably see a difference in how people interact with you.2.